Is true love's flame enough?

The Old Flame by Keziah Shepherd

The famous wise king Solomon once said, that “many waters cannot quench love” True love is like a flame. All the monsoon rains, hurricanes, and floods cannot put out the flame of love.

But for a flame to flourish as a relationship, it needs three components : Fire, Air and Fuel.

The problem for the character Katie, in the Old Flame is that she struggles to attain some of the components.  Will she manage to feed all the necessary components of true love flame, as she blindly searches to keep her flame blowing ?

The first component for her is easy : there is so much physical and sexual attraction between her and her dream man. It is like “Wow!”… she can hear angels and music…… and initially cannot get over this person. The attraction is overwhelming. Pheromones abound. Electricity and chemistry are constantly zapping and bubbling in and around. She feels an obsessive need to have her feelings reciprocated.

 But then next necessary part is Intimacy.  She needs
intimacy leads to attachment, to create closeness and connectedness.  She has her chances, hoping to bond with her dream man.

Intimacy grows first by spending a lot time with another person. Then it grows deeper by sharing with one another every aspect of our lives. Intimacy is built on trust and safety. If you cannot trust and feel safe with a person then intimacy disappears and will degenerate into distrust and suspicion.

Since intimacy takes patience to develop, many are not prepared for such task. It is work. It implies a lot of talking and disclosure. If a person has been hurt with a previous partner, then they will have great difficulty finding closeness due to previously existing walls of distrust. The tendency will be to project past hurts on the present relationship.

Katie finds this a difficult task and intimacy seems harder and harder, especially with her history of distrusting others.

The final part of the flame is commitment.
Commitment implies the ability to stay connected no matter what. A mature person is one who can work through misunderstandings and hurts. A key to staying together is believing the best of the other person, not prejudging them with bad motives. It is working positively to resolve issues. For a couple to stay together they must consistently break through the barriers of being hurt while assuming that the other person wants to resolve the issue also.

If Solomon is right, true love's flame will keep burning and one day all the components will one day be put in place.  Read Katie’s story about her Old Flame available now reduced from 2,99 dollars to just 99 cents.