Want versus Need : two characters desire one another but is this what they need?

New Novel : One Morning in Paris

Frequently, there is a conflict between what characters want and what they need.  Often we are blind to what we really need and instead exert all of our energy pursuing what we want. 

“You can’t always get what you want… but if you try some time, you get what you need”  Rolling Stones

It may be that the character desires a relationship that is unattainable or unsuitable.  These opposites might battle and one day find love. 

Finding a juicy discrepancy between the protagonist’s needs and wants and dramatising these opposing forces in the path to a compelling story.

My novel is about two characters who want one another but that is not what they need.  What they need is to heal their inner wounds from other sources.  No Relationship just happens because of attraction.  How can any couple learn such things from the source of the other, like vampires, especially if they’ve lived only dysfunctional relationship in the past? What is needed is work on all the areas of love: celebration and gratitude, helping, forgiveness, carefrontation, humour, respect, mindfulness, compassion, loyalty and creativity.

The characters in my novel face these truths.  Confucius says:

"Life leads the thoughtful man on a path of many windings.  Now the course is checked, now it runs straight again.  Here winged thoughts may pour freely forth in words, There the heavy burden of knowledge must be shut away in silence.  But when two people are at one in their inmost hearts, They shatter even the strength of iron or of bronze.  And when two people understand each other in their inmost hearts, Their words are sweet and strong, like the fragrance of orchids"